My own recent and past personal experiences have opened my eyes to a lot of mental issues people go through every day but don’t know how to deal with them. In June 2017 I had a complete break down when things became too overwhelming for me to handle and hide anymore.
For years I’ve been juggling hobbies such as creating music and football as well as organising events, community projects, building my business, spending time with family and caring for my mother who has her own mental issues she has suffered with for many years. After a while, I ended up stopping all hobbies consumed by work not eating or sleeping much and unable to realise how many people were taking advantage of me.
I ended up visiting my Doctor and after a long talk with him identified that I have become depressed and very anxious after trauma from my childhood. This for me was a matter of when after years of ignoring my own problems which later would have a huge impact on my health, finances and relationship.
Although I was prescribed medication to help with depression and anxiety this is not the road I wanted to go down. Like many others going through life pressures, we know what the problem is we just don’t always know how to cope and deal with them and that get on top of us.
I’m far from a finished article but with some help from close loved ones I’ve been able to start facing my fears and tackling issues 1 by 1. The closest people around me have helped me step out of my comfort zone and challenge myself in other ways so I can see what I’m capable of doing.
Part of this has been sharing some of my issues and feelings via my social media and encouraging people to take the first step in tackling their problems. From this, I had replies from people who found the strength to face some of their fears and deal with things they try to ignore and feel better for doing it.
The main thing for me has been fitness and boxing. Since visiting the Doctors I’ve been focusing on my health a lot greatly reducing the amount I was drinking and smoking as well as keeping an eye on my diet to improve my weight and general health. After 3 months I had built back up to over 12 stone after being just over 9 stone before visiting the doctors.
This gave me the motivation to want to do that little bit more to try and inspire people to take that step, face their fears and challenge themselves.
So I have decided to do a couple things…
After talking it over with family and close friends we decided that entering a White Collar Boxing event would do me a lot of good for my personal development. The training and discipline this requires have already brought improvements to my physical health and mental outlook on life which is a big personal reason for doing this. In addition to this, I get to raise money for Bluebell Wood Children’s Charity who do some fantastic work with their patients.
I will be holding an event in the Owen Building at Sheffield Hallam University in partnership with Angga Inspire and Men Up North. Many people do not realise how high the statistics are for men under 40 commuting suicide due to depression and other mental issues. As people struggle to cope with these issues it can push people to the point they want to end their lives. Many survivors of suicide attempts will stress the regret of trying to take their life so I feel it is important to keep raising awareness for this issue. This is a free workshop open to the first 16 people who register.
I will not be taking part in any other White Collar Events after the 2nd December. This is a chance for me to do something I gave up when I was younger and take myself way out of my comfort zone.
Tickets for this fight are £25 for standard or £40 for VIP with a meal.